A lesson in attachment theory and secure relationships. — I recently was out with a friend who had asked me how online dating was going. I described a guy I had just gone on a second date with. “Aww, you’re such a simp,” she told me. Which, basically, was her way of conveying I care too much. …

Hear me out… — I was dealing with writer’s block, and I didn’t want to admit it. I thought writer’s block suddenly happened, like, BAM, whoosh, and the words are gone. But for me, it was a gradual process: First, I met someone in real life and found out he had looked me up…

Tell people what you are looking for… on a dating app. Brilliant! — Yesterday, when I opened up the dating app, Hinge, I was presented with a pop-up informing me that they’ve added a new feature for users to include in their profiles. Okay, cool, what is it? Dating Intentions. They’ve only now decided that it was worth including on a dating app…

I wonder what they say about me… — My date and I were sitting across from each other in a tea shop… It’s not coffee, but yeah, fine, sometimes I break my own rules. “What’s your worst first date story?” He asked it so casually — an ice breaker. Because when something bad happens, sometimes you just have…

There are a surprising amount of similarities here. — Finding Online Communities Two of the wonderful online communities I’m a part of are the online writing community and the online dating community. Sufficed to say, I spend a lot of time online. One of the cool things about Medium is that you can find a lot of advice for both of these…

Because when does that ever work out? — I recently read this story that stuck with me by Ossiana Tepfenhart. Men Need To STFU With Walk Dates And Coffee Dates Don’t mind me, I’m just a dating writer who is sick of this shit.medium.com This passage leaped out at me: Ah, yes. Let’s go to a coffee shop where the lights are bright, the barista is overworked, and my name will be awkwardly spelled on a cup. Let’s see the rushes of…

Would they even be talking to you? — How Many Likes Have You Had? I was talking to one of my guy friends last week. We are both on dating apps and got on the subject of online dating. He asked me how many likes I’ve gotten on Hinge. “Umm, I don’t know,” I said. “Probably like 2 or 3 a day on average…

I was a bit apprehensive but I didn’t have much to lose. — We matched on Bumble. Sometimes, I swipe on dating apps looking for the perfect person, but lately, I’ve been trying to chill a bit. (Mostly because one of my last dates was a disaster.) I’m learning that not every relationship needs to be long-term, or maybe that long-term doesn’t necessarily have to be the…

He accepted me at my heaviest but our dynamic unexpectedly changed when I lost weight. — I found a man that loved me at my heaviest weight. Dreamy, right? Wrong. In the beginning, my ex-boyfriend was supportive of the idea of me losing weight in an “if that’s what you want to do then I support you” kind of way. …